Masturbation or masturbating together as a couple, is something that is not spoken of too much in general. However, we all know what we do under our sheets and behind closed curtains. A girl masturbating is really not that much different.
A Girl Masturbating? Really?
Emma Watson openly spoke about the website omgyes.com and proclaimed she was a subscriber there. We have read several surveys about female masturbation and there is sufficient evidence to indicate that a girl masturbating is no longer a topic under wraps. Let’s be progressive, it is indeed the 21st century. Tokyo has a female masturbation bar and recently in Germany, students organized a limited-seat masturbation workshop. Closer home, in the movie Veere di Wedding, the masturbation scene puzzled me the most. The husband of one of the main characters discovers her using a vibrator and that becomes a reason for his anger and their separation. How could something such as a girl masturbating get her husband thinking about divorce? This has been a taboo topic for long, but today self-pleasure is prescribed by science and medicine as being beneficial to health. Hollywood movies depicted masturbation as one of the many morning routines by the protagonist. According to studies, for women, whether they had frequent sex or not, the odds of masturbation were similar and it played a complementary role to sex. I could not understand why her husband would find it offensive, especially because my boyfriend introduced me to masturbation in the first place. Praveen, my college boyfriend, didn’t believe in foreplay really. Within the first few dates he sensed my green light on going to the next base and he introduced me to pleasuring myself.
There were things I could do
I was not really a virgin where masturbation is concerned. I knew that when I lay on my stomach, gave the right pressure down under and clenched my thighs in rhythm I could experience a sensation that was pleasurable. Table edges and showerheads were the next best things for the purpose. There are many household items for masturbation that are seemingly innocent but can drive your world crazy. Moving buses were my undoing, because I had no way to satisfy the urge in a public place. So when my roommate Poonam explicitly told me to try using my fingers to stimulate myself and attain a decent orgasm, I was tempted to try it. I needn’t have bothered, because Praveen showed me how to do it in the next few days. Yes, so far it was my guilty pleasure, something I would never ever share with my friends or cousins; until my boyfriend participated in the activity with me and made it a secret between us. Masturbating together is something I was very new to. I believed this was a purely sexual act, until one day, as I was feeling extremely stressed and restless regarding my exams, I decided to try pleasuring myself. It was intuitive I vividly recall, not something I had been planning to do, and it was as if my fingers found their way to my crotch and I felt the tension drain away slowly but surely. Tentatively, I used my fingers to feel around the inside and there it was. The familiar happy feeling. It took me a while and a few more sessions to get perfectly tuned to my body; however, I managed to give myself a mind-blowing orgasm that time and every other time, unless rudely interrupted of course. Well, I fell asleep soon after, because it relaxed me immensely. After that, I knew better when Praveen did the same to me.
Just as relaxing as reading a book
Apparently, toe curling climaxes physically and emotionally exhaust the body and one experiences the same soporific and relaxing effect that reading a book in bed gives. The best part about self-induced orgasms is that it kept the juices flowing even when I was between boyfriends. And thankfully, all of them loved satisfying me and it involved more than penetrative sex. Masturbation is the safest form of sex and there is absolutely no danger of an unwanted pregnancy. Moreover, multiple orgasms are not uncommon during masturbation. Sanjay, my second boyfriend, would treat my masturbation sessions like a show. He marveled at the number of orgasms I could get in a day and never failed to tell me that I was the best in the business when he compared me to his past girlfriends. He was in tune with my body and could sense when I was about to orgasm. I suppose I was the closest to him, because he never censured me for this. I have done it in his car as he drove on the highway, I have done it as we browsed in the private booth of an Internet café filling job applications and I have done it on my office chair as I felt frisky one night as we sat together coding a program.
You don’t need a man, although…
Masturbation balances levels of oxytocin, cortisol and oestrogen. Today, I am 50, single, and fit as far as sexual health is concerned. I am certain that I do not need to have a man to pleasure me. Yes masturbating together is something I do prefer but I’m happy to do it alone too. Sex is not the reason for me to have a partner; however, I do agree that masturbation is like a party of one. It sometimes makes me feel terribly lonely and I wish I had the right physical and emotional support as I climax. However, masturbation is like a homecoming to my body and my favorite relaxation mantra. (As told to Amogha)(Names changed to protect identities)
